Relationship Series - Marriage and Vision

In many 3rd world countries, the societal values favor marriage as people are encouraged to remain in

their marriages to make them work. They do this because they do not want to lose their reputation and

honor in the eyes of the society. The present situation in the place of our divine assignment (Canada

and North America at large) is very different. Some of the existing values in the society as presented

below are very hostile to marriage.

Relationship Series: Marriage and Vision
Relationship Series: Marriage and Vision

1. Self-centeredness: Destructive lifestyles such as infidelity, extra-marital affairs, secrecy and

non-transparency in personal finance and many others have their roots in self-centeredness. Personal

interest is exalted to the detriment of the interest of the spouse, children and most importantly the

interest of God concerning the marriage.

2. Women liberation/Feminist movement/Feminism: A key motivation for this movement was

a desire for reforms on issues of reproductive rights, domestic violence, maternity leave, equal pay,

women suffrage (right to vote and to be voted for), sexual harassments etc. The afore mentioned

objectives of the movement are noble. However, many have hijacked, corrupted and remodeled these

objectives to suit their personal selfish desires. The pursuit of equal social rights for women and gender

equality has crossed safe boundaries into major misconceptions that fight and destroys God's

foundation for marriage. These misconceptions are:

i. Men and Women are equal and same in all ramifications - (Response) As regards our

rights as humans, we are equal. In the sight of God, we equal. However equality does not mean

we are the same. By God's design, a woman is distinctly different from a man (physically,

mentally, emotionally etc.). This difference in turn affects the role a man and woman plays in a


ii. Gender roles should be eliminated - (Response) This misconception comes from the idea

that male and female are all the same. Our different design by God was not a purposeless act of

variation. We are designed differently (male and female) to help us fit into our roles in marriage

and in the society. A wife cannot reject her role as wife and decide to become the husband and

the husband cannot do likewise without destroying the divine order of marriage. God makes it